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What Is Propaganda? How Conditioning and Repetition Control Beliefs

What Is Propaganda?

Propaganda is information designed to influence rather than inform—often 99% truth mixed with subtle deception. This blog explores how propaganda works like slow poisoning, shaping beliefs through conditioning, neuroscience, and repetition, and why building a mental immune system is essential for those committed to Becoming Maverick.

Who is Propaganda?


One of my favourite musicians is Jason Emmanuel Petty, better known by his stage name Propaganda.

Born on May 27, 1979, in Los Angeles, California, he is a gifted artist proficient in hip‑hop, spoken word, and underground hip‑hop. His work is thoughtful, challenging, and deeply reflective. One of my favourite albums in his portfolio is Crimson Cord, a project that has been particularly influential in my own journey.

Interestingly, while I admire the artist Propaganda, the concept of propaganda itself is generally not a good thing.

The Nature of Propaganda

Over coffee one day, a friend explained propaganda to me using an illustration that has stayed with me ever since.

He asked me to imagine a glass of clean water. Then imagine a single drop of poison being added to it. For propaganda to work, he said, it needs to be 99% truth and 1% deception.

If you drank that water once, you wouldn’t detect the poison. It wouldn’t have an immediate or noticeable effect on your body. But if you continued to drink that same poisoned water over time, the poison would slowly accumulate. Eventually, you would start getting sick without knowing why. If the exposure continued long enough, it could even be fatal.

This is not just a metaphor. Historically, murders have been committed this way—through slow, undetectable poisoning.

Thallium Poisoning: A Real‑World Parallel

There are documented criminal cases involving thallium poisoning, sometimes referred to as the “poisoner’s poison.” Thallium is colourless, tasteless, and accumulates in the body over time. Victims often experience vague symptoms—fatigue, hair loss, gastrointestinal distress, and neurological issues—long before the cause is discovered.

Several high‑profile cases illustrate this clearly:


Graham Frederick Young (United Kingdom), known as “The Teacup Poisoner,” used thallium to poison family members and later co‑workers in the 1960s and 1970s. He administered small doses over time, causing prolonged illness before death. Because symptoms mimicked natural disease, suspicion was delayed.

George Trepal (United States) poisoned his neighbour’s family in Florida in 1988 by contaminating Coca‑Cola bottles with thallium. Multiple family members became ill over weeks, and one child died. The staggered, escalating symptoms complicated early diagnosis.

Zhu Ling (China), a university student, was poisoned with thallium in the 1990s. Although she survived, the poisoning caused severe and permanent neurological damage. The case remains unresolved, but it is one of the most studied examples of thallium’s long‑term bioaccumulative effects.


In these cases, perpetrators relied on repeated low doses, knowing the body would slowly store the toxin. The damage became evident only once critical biological systems began to fail—often too late for full recovery.


That is the danger of propaganda. It rarely comes as an obvious lie. It hides inside truth.

From a scientific perspective, this mirrors how certain poisons and toxins behave in the human body. Substances such as heavy metals (like lead or mercury), fat‑soluble toxins, and some organic poisons are not immediately expelled. Instead, they bioaccumulate—stored in organs, fatty tissue, or the nervous system. Each exposure may be small, but over time the total load crosses a threshold, and systems begin to fail.

The body often compensates at first, masking the damage. Symptoms only appear once the damage is advanced. By then, reversal becomes far more difficult.

Conditioning: Nature’s Version of Propaganda


In the natural sciences, there is a concept known as conditioning. It is a highly effective method of instruction.

Small bits of information are introduced and repeatedly reinforced until they influence behaviour. At first the change is slow, almost unnoticeable. Over time, however, the effect compounds, and eventually the behaviour or trait becomes permanent—and very difficult to reverse.

In many ways, conditioning is nature’s equivalent of propaganda.

Psychology and neuroscience help explain why this is so effective. The human brain is wired for pattern recognition and repetition. Neural pathways that are activated repeatedly become stronger through a process known as neuroplasticity. In simple terms: what we rehearse, we reinforce.

Psychiatry recognizes that repeated exposure to distorted or harmful beliefs can contribute to anxiety disorders, learned helplessness, depression, and maladaptive coping mechanisms. When false narratives are repeated often enough—especially during childhood—they become part of a person’s internal model of reality.

Epigenetics adds another layer. Research shows that prolonged stress, fear‑based messaging, and chronic negative conditioning can influence gene expression—not by changing DNA itself, but by switching certain genes on or off. In other words, long‑term exposure to harmful environments and ideas doesn’t just affect thoughts; it can influence biology across generations.

Conditioning itself is neutral. It can be good or bad, depending on what is being reinforced. The problem with propaganda is that, by design, it carries deceptive intent. Its end goal is rarely the well‑being of the person being conditioned.

A World of Constant Influence


From birth, we are all being conditioned!

Some of this conditioning is genuinely good. It helps us become effective, productive, and responsible contributors to society. But a significant portion of it is propaganda—messages shaped by people or systems that do not have our best interests at heart.

These ideas slowly shape how we think, what we believe, and how we behave, often without us ever realizing it.

Becoming Maverick

If propaganda works through slow conditioning, then freedom requires intentional re‑conditioning.

To reverse the effects of propaganda, we must introduce small amounts of truthful, healthy information, repeated consistently over time, until our behaviour begins to change and better outcomes are produced.

This is the process of Becoming Maverick.

Not dramatic overnight change—but small, deliberate shifts that compound over time.

Building a Mental Immune System

Once we begin to break free from harmful conditioning, we must also build a defence system. Freedom is fragile. Without protection, we can easily be trapped and enslaved again.

We need what I would call a mental immune system.

What are the antibodies against propaganda? They are:
  • Reliable information
  • Reputable sources
  • Correct data
  • Verifiable truth


If you find that you are consistently being defeated in a particular area of life, it may be worth asking:

What propaganda have I been exposed to?

Because often, the battle is not in our circumstances—but in the ideas we have unknowingly consumed.

The Maverick path is one of self‑awareness, discernment, and living each day with intention.

Yes, you can do this.

Enjoy your journey of Becoming Maverick.

Why?... Borrowed Blueprints: The Hidden Danger in Self-Help Success Strategies

Borrowed Blueprints: The Hidden Danger in Self-Help Success Strategies


Self-help focuses on personal growth, healing, and mindset renewal. Learn why blindly copying success strategies can cause harm and how to design your own Maverick journey with clarity, self-awareness, and purpose.

Hurting People, hurt people 

One of the most subtle dangers in personal growth is living life from a place of unhealed hurt.

When pain is not processed correctly, it doesn’t disappear. It leaks. It shows up in our decisions, our leadership, our parenting, our businesses, and our advice to others. Often without realizing it, we begin to project our unresolved hurt onto the people around us.

This is especially visible in motivational and self‑help spaces. Much of the advice shared is drawn from lived experience, and lived experience matters. But experience is not the same as universality. What worked for one person is not automatically a blueprint for everyone else.

The danger lies in ignoring the starting point.

Many success stories begin in trauma. Pain becomes fuel. Survival sharpens grit. While this can produce remarkable outcomes, it also creates blind spots. When trauma is not acknowledged or healed, a person can unconsciously step into the role of a pseudo‑hero — or worse, a villain — believing they are helping while unknowingly reproducing harm.

Good intentions do not cancel unhealed wounds.

Looking Beyond the Highlight Reel

When we look at what someone has accomplished, wisdom requires that we look deeper than the outcome. Success is never a single action or strategy. It is the convergence of many components:

  • background and upbringing
  • access to resources and opportunities
  • timing and environment
  • support systems and mentors
  • personality, resilience, and temperament
  • pain points, failures, and lessons learned

Only when we break these components down can we begin to discern what is transferable — and what is not.

Blindly implementing someone else’s strategy without understanding the full context that produced it is not wisdom. It is imitation without insight. And imitation without insight often leads to frustration, burnout, or quiet self‑blame.

Designing Your Own Maverick Roadmap

The Maverick Journey was never meant to be a copy‑and‑paste exercise.

True growth requires discernment. We take what aligns with our values, our season, our capacity, and our calling — and we leave the rest. From there, we design our own roadmap. One that honours who we are, where we come from, and where we are being led.

This is slower than imitation. It is also safer. And ultimately, more sustainable.

Building Beyond the Moment

Mavericks are also cautious about when and how they build.

Creating ideas, products, services, or even entire lives based solely on current environmental conditions or the technology of the moment carries significant risk. What works today may not work tomorrow. Markets shift. Cultures change. Technologies are replaced — sometimes overnight. When this happens, those who built only for the present can find themselves in an awkward, even vulnerable position.

What endures is not technology, trends, or tactics — but principles.

When something is meant to stand the test of time, it must be rooted in timeless wisdom: ancient insights, universal principles, and truths that have guided humanity across generations. These foundations are not dependent on any one system, platform, or innovation. Instead, they provide stability.

Technology should be treated as a tool, not a foundation. When principles lead and tools follow, what we build can adapt, evolve, and remain effective in any environment.

The process of Becoming Maverick does not reject innovation — but refuses to be enslaved by it. We build in a way that allows us to remain relevant, resilient, and impactful no matter how the landscape shifts.

Why This Matters for the Next Generation

This awareness becomes even more critical when it comes to children.

Children learn less from what we say and far more from who we are. Neuroscience speaks of mirror neurons — we are biologically wired to copy human behaviour, especially behaviour linked to strong emotion. Unhealed pain, when modelled, is absorbed. Repeated. Normalised.

Unhealed hurt does not remain personal. It multiplies.

The Quiet Responsibility of Healing

Healing is not a luxury. It is not a private preference.

Healing is responsibility.

For ourselves. For those who listen to us. For those who follow us. And especially for those who are watching us grow up.

The Maverick path is not about becoming louder, tougher, or more impressive.

It is about becoming whole.

Yes, you can do this.
Enjoy the journey of Becoming Maverick!

Shalom!

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Escape Velocity — Breaking Free from Limiting Forces

Escape Velocity — Breaking Free from Limiting Forces

Escape velocity is the minimum speed needed to break free from a planet’s gravity. In life and business, it’s a metaphor for overcoming limitations. Learn how to build momentum, rise above fear and doubt, and achieve new heights in your journey of Becoming Maverick.


Let's begin 

It’s been said, “What goes up must come down.” Right?
No — that’s not always true. Not everything that goes up has to come down.

You might ask, “But what about gravity?”
And I’ll ask in return, “What about escape velocity?”

In this edition of Becoming Maverick, we’re talking about what it takes to break free from the invisible forces that hold us back — to rise beyond limitation and step into a new atmosphere of growth.

We all know gravity as the force that keeps our feet on the ground. It’s what pulls a ball back to earth when we throw it into the air, and what brings us down when we jump. But there’s a powerful lesson hidden in physics — one that speaks directly to life, leadership, and purpose.


The Core Idea: What Is Escape Velocity?

In physics, escape velocity is the minimum speed needed for an object to break free from the gravitational pull of a planet or celestial body — without being pulled back.

On Earth, escape velocity equals 11.2 km/s — that’s about 40,000 km/h.
It’s not about altitude — it’s about energy.

The object must have enough kinetic energy (energy of motion) to overcome gravity’s potential energy (the pull that keeps it grounded). Once it reaches that threshold, it’s free. It doesn’t drift back down — it escapes Earth’s pull completely and enters space.


When a rocket launches, it doesn’t just rise a few meters and fall back. It gathers momentum — steady, intentional, and powerful — until it hits that point of no return: escape velocity. That’s the moment it breaks free and enters a new dimension. As Neil Armstrong once said:

“The important achievement of Apollo was demonstrating that humanity is not forever chained to this planet and our visions go rather further than that and our opportunities are unlimited.”

On our journey of Becoming Mavericks, we’ve learned that momentum is everything. When we build enough forward motion — through discipline, consistency, and vision — we can break through the invisible barriers that once held us down.

In our businesses, that means identifying the forces that keep us grounded: old habits, fear, doubt, procrastination, or lack of strategy. To rise higher, we must study those forces, understand them, and then build a plan that allows us to generate enough energy, focus, and belief to overcome them.

Sometimes that “gravity” looks like gaps in management, finances, human resources, business processes, or even market access. Whatever it is, understand it deeply. Know your business. Then build upward momentum — piece by piece, step by step.

The same applies to our personal lives. Emotional gravity — insecurity, negative thinking, or the weight of past failures — can pull us down. But through consistent growth, faith, and courage, we can reach our own escape velocity and break free.

Perhaps for you it’s your health — learn how your body works and how to care for it.
Perhaps it’s unresolved trauma — something buried long ago that now quietly blocks your progress. Awareness is the first ignition spark.

Mavericks, be encouraged: whatever stronghold you face, it is possible to rise above it. You are not defined by the forces that try to hold you down — you are defined by your capacity to overcome them.

Reaching escape velocity in your life or business doesn’t happen overnight. Remember — before a rocket launches, there are years of slow, methodical work, research, and preparation behind it. Dream big, but start small. Begin with what you have, where you are, and with the time available to you. Apply the 1% Better Rule — improve a little each day, and momentum will grow. Then you build from there.

Take charge of your mind.
Guard your inner conversation.
Believe aggressively.
Be confident in your design and destiny.

As Nelson Mandela wisely reminded us:

“It always seems impossible until it is done.”

Remind yourself: what you’re attempting has been achieved by others before you — and what’s possible for one human being is possible for another. The human spirit is engineered for progress. You have far more power than you often realize.

Yes, you can do this.
Enjoy the journey of Becoming Maverick!

Shalom!

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The Jesus Code: Part Three


 Living the Jesus Code—Scriptural Foundations for Transformation

"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will." – Romans 12:2 (NIV)

If you’ve been journeying with us through the Jesus Code Challenge, you’ll know this isn’t about religion—it’s about radical inner transformation. Romans 12:2 lays the foundation: the Jesus life is one of mind renewal, not worldly conformity. It’s about aligning our thoughts, habits, decisions, and responses with the heart of Christ.

In this blog, we’ll anchor the Jesus Code with Scripture, giving you a solid foundation for each mindset shift. These verses are not for memorization alone—they're for meditation, application, and practice.

Let’s walk through the Code with God’s Word as our guide.



Introduction:

The Jesus Code isn’t just a feel-good motto—it’s a spiritual lifestyle, rooted deeply in Scripture. If you’ve ever wondered how to move from just believing in Jesus to becoming like Jesus, then this blog is your fuel. This is for those who love the Word and who know that transformation happens not just by inspiration but through the Spirit-empowered discipline of applying Scripture to our daily lives.


Why Scripture?

Jesus lived by Scripture. He quoted it in the wilderness (Matthew 4), taught from it in the synagogue (Luke 4), and fulfilled it through his life and death (Luke 24:44). If we are to walk like Jesus, we must walk in the Word.

Romans 12:2 reminds us that real transformation happens when our minds are renewed. This renewal doesn’t happen passively—it happens as we soak in the Word, meditate on it, and put it into practice.


Jesus Code Values with Supporting Scripture:

Here are core values from the Jesus Code, paired with scriptural anchors to help guide you on your journey:

  1. Love radically.
    Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”Matthew 5:44

  2. Live humbly.
    “He humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!”Philippians 2:8

  3. Speak truthfully.
    “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’...”Matthew 5:37

  4. Serve sacrificially.
    “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve...”Matthew 20:28

  5. Forgive quickly.
    “Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”Luke 6:37

  6. Stay pure-hearted.
    “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.”Matthew 5:8

  7. Pray consistently.
    “Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”Luke 5:16

  8. Walk in integrity.
    “Whoever claims to live in Him must live as Jesus did.”1 John 2:6

  9. Persevere through trials.
    “Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete...”James 1:4

  10. Live with joy and peace.
    “My peace I give you... Do not let your hearts be troubled.”John 14:27


The Jesus Code Challenge (Scripture Edition):

Use these verses not just to memorize but to internalize. Over the next 7 weeks, take on the challenge of living out one or more of these values intentionally. At the end of each week, return to the Jesus Code Self-Assessment, reflect on your progress, and recommit for the next round.

Remember: spiritual transformation is a journey, and every step you take counts.


A Final Word to Our Mavericks:

The Word of God is living and active (Hebrews 4:12). When you begin to live it—not just read it—you become a walking Bible, a living letter, and a reflection of Christ to the world.

This challenge is not about perfection—it’s about direction. It’s about progress, not performance.

So Mavericks, open your Bibles, open your hearts, and let’s write the Jesus Code into our lives—one verse, one day, one challenge at a time.

Shalom!

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In loving Memory of Harold Samuel Nicholls (1931-2019), Love you Dad!

The Jesus Code: Part One

The Jesus Code: Living Like Christ in a Complicated World


Jesus Code: a practical, scripture-rooted code of conduct for everyday living—kindness, courage, humility, and service. In this series, we explore the Jesus Code, take an assessment, participate in the 7-day challenge, and learn some key scriptures.


I’ve been thinking a lot about Jesus lately.

Not just in the way we talk about Him in church, but wondering: what was He really like?
What was His personality? His attitude to life? How did He treat people—not just His friends and followers, but strangers, the outcast, the annoying, and the hostile?

More importantly, if Jesus were alive today, how would He live?

Would He be scrolling social media?
Would He show up at your workplace?
Would He speak out online?
Would He ignore you in traffic?

The Jesus we see in Scripture is deeply human, wildly loving, fiercely truthful, and yet deeply peaceful. And honestly, when I compare Jesus to the way many of us profess to be Christian today, there’s often a big gap.

We’ve all met people who say they follow Jesus—but who are judgmental, selfish, proud, and even at times rude. We’ve all been those people, too, at times. Myself included.

The WWJD Era

I remember the 90s and early 2000s—we wore those little WWJD (What Would Jesus Do?) bracelets. A small reminder that every action was a choice to either reflect Christ or not. Maybe it’s time to bring them back… not as a fashion statement, but as a lifestyle question.

Because that question still matters.
In your conversations.
In your business.
In how you treat your spouse.
In how you respond to gossip.
In how you use money.
In how you talk to the waiter.

But how do we actually live it?

Here’s where I think we need something deeper than slogans and rituals. We need a Jesus Code—not rules to follow but habits, mindsets, and a heart posture rooted in who Jesus really is.

Not religious. Not performative. Not “holier than thou.” Just real.

Here’s what it might look like:

  • Love first. Before correcting, condemning, or withdrawing.
  • Serve quietly. Without needing applause or credit.
  • Speak truth. But always with grace, never to wound.
  • Forgive quickly. Even when no one says sorry.
  • Stay grounded. Spend time with God, even in chaos.
  • Be real. Jesus didn’t perform. He was deeply authentic.
  • See people. Especially the ones others ignore.
  • Choose peace. In conflict, in politics, in relationships.
  • Obey courageously. Even when it’s costly.
  • Hope always. Jesus never gave up on people.

Bringing the Jesus Code Into Your Daily Life

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being intentional.
Here are some simple ways to begin:

  • Start your day asking, “What would Jesus do here?”
  • Journal moments where you felt misaligned with Him—not to shame, but to grow.
  • Practice silence and prayer—even just five minutes.
  • Let one “Jesus habit” guide you each week (like compassion, humility, or forgiveness).
  • Invite accountability from friends who want to grow with you.

In a noisy world full of opinions, division, and pressure, I believe we’re all craving something real. No more religion. More Jesus.

Let’s not just talk about Him.
Let’s live like Him.
Let’s rewrite the story of what it means to follow Jesus—not just with words, but with lives that quietly whisper:

“This… is what Jesus would do.”

Shalom!

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Play Life: Play with Purpose



Play Life: Play with Purpose


— A Becoming Maverick Reflection


The Power of Play goes beyond entertainment—it’s a powerful tool for growth and learning. Through play, both children and adults develop creativity, problem-solving, communication, and emotional resilience. Psychologists and educators highlight how games mimic real-life situations, offering safe spaces to practice decision-making and strategy. Animals use play to learn survival skills, and humans sharpen social and cognitive abilities through it. Whether it’s the logic of chess, the teamwork in 30 Seconds, or the unpredictability of Ludo, play teaches adaptability and perseverance. When we play with purpose, we prepare for life’s challenges with wisdom, joy, and confidence. 

If life were a board game, which one would you describe as yours? On this journey of Becoming Maverick, I’ve discovered that games can give us valuable insights into life—and even help us develop and practice real-world strategies. Whether it’s chess, checkers, or snakes and ladders, every game reveals something deeper about how we think, relate, grow, win, or recover after setbacks.

I once had a conversation with a champion pool player named Mark. He said something that stopped me in my tracks:

“Most people play pool the same way they live. Their strategy on the table mirrors how they approach life.”

In other words, whether you're playing or living, you're revealing who you are.

Coming from a background in nature conservation, I’ve seen this reflected in the animal kingdom too. Many mammals teach their young how to survive through play. In my youth development work, I’ve noticed that the toys and games children gravitate toward often point toward their future passions or professions.

Psychologists confirm it: play is powerful. It’s where habits are born. It’s where character is tested. It’s where purpose begins to form.


Life Lessons from the Games We Play

Over the years, I’ve reflected on what various board games have taught me. Each one holds a lesson—a metaphor for seasons in life. And no matter how simple or complex, every game reminds us that life requires awareness, adaptation, and a willingness to grow.

Sometimes Life Feels Like Drafts (Checkers)

Simple rules. Equal pieces. Straightforward moves. In these seasons, progress depends on consistent action. The lesson? Master the basics, respect the rhythm, and keep moving.

Other Times, It’s Like Chess

Every piece is different. The rules are more complex. Success requires focus, strategy, foresight, and the willingness to lose small battles for the sake of the bigger picture. Life in these moments teaches us to think, plan, and pause before we move.

Then There Are Scrabble Seasons

You must build—but only with what you have. You may not get the ideal “letters” in life, but creativity, knowledge, and timing can still bring victory. Scrabble reminds us that limitations don’t block success—they shape innovation.

Life Can Resemble Monopoly Too

High risk, high reward. It’s about ownership, negotiation, and long-term strategy. It teaches us about wealth, power, and the danger of greed. Monopoly moments in life push us to think like builders and investors.

Sometimes, It’s 30 Seconds

Fast-paced. Pressure-filled. Your team matters. Success depends on quick thinking, memory, communication, and chemistry. These seasons remind us that some wins require the right people, not just the right plan.

At Times, It’s Like Pictionary

You’re trying to understand what someone else is trying to say with very few tools. Miscommunication is likely, but empathy and patience make connection possible. This game reminds us that listening is an art, and understanding takes time.

Then There’s Ludo

You don’t control the dice. Life throws random challenges your way. But what matters is what you do with your turn. Even when you don’t get the number you wanted, there’s a strategy to move forward. Ludo reminds us to play smart — even when luck isn’t on our side.

And Let’s Not Forget Snakes & Ladders

You’re climbing, soaring, winning — and suddenly, you hit a snake. You fall hard, far, and fast. But you keep going. Because just as quickly, a ladder might appear and lift you higher than before. This game reminds us that failure is not final and fortune can turn in a single moment.


So what’s the point, Maverick?

The point is this: life is a game, and it’s rich with lessons. Every game teaches us something different. Sometimes we need to play with logic. Sometimes with heart. Sometimes with courage. And sometimes, with hope.

Being a Maverick means recognising the season you’re in—and choosing the right strategy for that season. It means knowing that while you can’t control every roll of the dice, you can control your mindset, your preparation, and your response.

Life is exciting. It’s unpredictable. And it’s full of challenges. But with reflection, strategy, and purpose, we can rise to meet it.

So, Maverick, I’ll ask again:
If life were a game, which one are you playing right now?
Are you adapting to the board in front of you?
Are you playing with purpose, or simply passing time?

Becoming Maverick means mastering not just the game but yourself every time you step up to play.

Shalom!

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Beyond Alpha: Understanding Your Role in the Pack

 Alpha is often defined as the leader, the dominant figure at the top. But true maverick living goes beyond chasing titles. In Beyond Alpha, we explore how every role—Alpha, Beta, Delta, Omega—matters for the success of the group. Life is a journey of seasons: sometimes you lead, sometimes you support, sometimes you heal. Your worth isn’t defined by titles but by how you contribute, grow, and uplift others. Becoming Maverick means embracing your season with strength, wisdom, and purpose.


Beyond Alpha: Understanding Your Role in the Pack

In today's noisy world, the term "Alpha" gets thrown around far too often, especially targeting young men trying to find their place. But Becoming Maverick has never been about chasing titles or dominating others. True maverick living is about deeply understanding your role within your family, community, workplace, and friend groups—and embracing that role with honour, strength, and wisdom.

In a wolf pack, yes, the Alpha leads. But every member—from the Omega to the Delta—plays a vital role in the survival and prosperity of the pack. Life is much the same. We are not static beings. Throughout our lifetime, our role will shift depending on the season we find ourselves in.

Let's unpack the key wolf pack roles and their risks and rewards:

  • Alpha: The leader who makes decisions for the pack, responsible for protection and guidance.

    • Reward: Respect, authority, and legacy.

    • Risk: Constant challenges to leadership, immense pressure, and responsibility.

  • Beta: The second-in-command, loyal to the Alpha and enforcer of discipline.

    • Reward: Influence without the ultimate burden of leadership.

    • Risk: Must navigate loyalty and ambition carefully, risking conflict if ambition is unchecked.

  • Delta: The workers, scouts, and protectors. They maintain order and perform crucial duties.

    • Reward: Purpose and a sense of contribution.

    • Risk: Often overlooked, yet critical; burnout if unappreciated.

  • Omega: The peacemaker, absorbing tension within the pack and often acting as a social glue.

    • Reward: Emotional intelligence and relationship-building skills.

    • Risk: Being misunderstood, marginalised, or scapegoated during crises.

Sometimes, you will be Alpha—the leader with vision, strength, and responsibility. Other times, you will be Beta or Delta—providing support, keeping the group stable, and ensuring the leader succeeds for the sake of all. You may even find yourself in an Omega season. But hear this: your value is not determined by the label society gives you.

If you find yourself in a support role, embrace it. Do not sabotage the Alpha. Your turn will come, and how you support others reveals the depth of your own leadership maturity.

If you lose your position as Alpha, it’s not failure—it’s a sign that you are not the right leader for that season. That is okay. True Mavericks prioritise becoming healthy individuals in mind, body, and spirit so they can contribute meaningfully at any stage.

Sometimes, life events—loss, illness, setbacks—leave us feeling weak. That too is part of the journey. Lean into the strength of your family, friends, colleagues, and broader society to heal and become strong again. This is not shameful—it’s wisdom.

We were never created to walk alone. As Dr. Myles Munroe once said:

"When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable."

So, understand the purpose you live.

He also said "True leadership is not about controlling people. It's about serving them and influencing them to achieve their full potential." Know that you are a person of value, so are those around you. 

Dr Monroe also advised us that "Success is not a pursuit... it's a state of being. It's the process of becoming who you were born to be."

The Bible, too, teaches us the wisdom of seasons:

"To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven." — Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV)

Mavericks, embrace the season you are in. Lead when it’s your time. Support others when they need you. Heal when you are broken. And always—always—continue to grow.

The journey of Becoming Maverick is not about proving yourself to others. It’s about living life, adding value to yourself and those around you in every season of life.

Stay strong, stay wise, stay Maverick.

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Thank you for reading to the end.  What is your strategy for the 2025? Let’s start a conversation—leave a comment below!

Shalom!


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Feeling inspired? If my content has brought a smile to your face, a R35 treat of coffee and a cupcake would do the same for me! Your kindness adds a touch of sweetness to my day and reminds me that my work is valued. Every sip and bite will be a delicious reminder of your support. Thank you for spreading joy and making my creative process even sweeter!

Love what you see? Whether it’s a tiny espresso shot or a grand dessert feast, your surprise gift of any amount fills my heart with excitement and keeps my creativity bubbling! Your generosity, in whatever form it takes, brings unexpected joy to my day and propels me forward. 
Thank you for your support and for making this journey so much more fun and rewarding!

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New Beginnings: New Year, New Growth

New Beginnings: New Year, New Growth

Mark 2:1–12, “Let us begin this new year with these words of wisdom as motivation: speak up, reach out, and carry your friends toward healing. Together, we are stronger.”


Happy New Year, Mavericks!

What I’m about to share has been brewing inside me for months. I started putting pen to paper about a month ago, but I discarded several drafts before settling on this version. Now, as the new year gets underway, I find myself reflecting more deeply on what it means to face challenges head-on and come out stronger—what it means to embrace the journey of Becoming Maverick.

For many, the new year is a time for quick resolutions and goal-setting. For me, this process has evolved into something longer and more intentional over the past few years. My annual reflection and goal-setting now begins in mid-December and stretches over 30 to 60 days, sometimes ending in February. It’s not just about ticking items off a list—it’s about taking the time to honestly assess where I’ve been, what I’ve faced, and where I’m headed. It’s about identifying the changes I need to make to get there. This could include upgrading beliefs that no longer serve me, acquiring new skills or resources, or even building or ending personal or business relationships. It’s about understanding myself, the world, and making the necessary edits to my game plan.

This year, I had to confront the truth that 2024 was incredibly tough. There were long stretches—50 to 60% of the time—where I felt like I was walking around with a hole in my heart. A heaviness I couldn’t shake. Have you ever felt like you wanted to cry but couldn’t find the tears? That’s where I was. Anxiety was constantly in the red zone, and I didn’t know where to turn. I couldn’t even put into words what was wrong, and I felt my friends were tired of hearing the same sad stories. So, I kept it to myself.

In the middle of all this, one Bible story kept coming to mind: the paralyzed man and his friends in Mark 2:1–12. These friends carried their lame companion to Jesus, even breaking open a roof to ensure he got the healing he needed. That story has stayed with me because I realized—I was the lame man.

As an introvert leaning toward ambivert tendencies, I deeply value my alone time. But this year reinforced something important: we were not designed to live in isolation. Having time to recharge is necessary, but prolonged isolation can be dangerous—it can drive a person to despair. My friend Sam and I often discuss this: introverts need balance. We need alone time, but we also need connection. The truth is, that introverts love and need people, just in a different manner than extroverts.

I am filled with gratitude because, despite the challenges, I had a special group of friends and family who carried me through. At times, I felt paralyzed by my struggles—financially, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically unable to move forward. Like the lame man in the story, I was dependent on others to get me to a place of healing. And I can honestly say I wouldn’t have made it without them.

Even now, there are days when life doesn’t go the way I want, and I relapse into moments of stress or depression. But I’ve come a long way, thanks to those who stayed with me when I couldn’t carry myself.

Like the paralyzed man’s friends, they didn’t let me struggle alone. They reminded me of an important truth: we were not designed to live in isolation. Healing and breakthroughs happen in the context of connection and support.

Mavericks, I know how hard it can be to reach out for help—especially for men. Society often tells us to “tough it out,” to hide our struggles, and to see vulnerability as weakness. But let me encourage you: speak up when you need help. Don’t let pride or fear silence you. Healing begins when we allow others to walk with us.

And to those who see a friend struggling—don’t let go too soon. Sometimes we assume someone is “fine” and move on, leaving them to struggle alone when they still need us. Healing takes time, and your presence might make all the difference.

In the early 2000s, the singer-songwriter Stacie Orrico released a song called I Promise. The lyrics ask:

"Will I take tender, tender care of you?
Take your darkest night and make it bright for you?
Will I be there to make you strong and to lean on?
When this world has turned so cold, will I be the one that’s there to hold?"

This is the kind of friendship we all need—and the kind we can offer to others.

Ask your friends, “How are you, really?” And when you do, be thoughtful. Men and women open up differently; often, men open up better shoulder-to-shoulder rather than face-to-face. Whether it’s through a shared activity, a quiet moment, or simply listening without judgment or solutions, your support matters. Sometimes, all someone needs is a listening ear.

Mavericks, we were designed to be connected. So carry your friends when they can’t carry themselves. Break through the “roof” of silence and stigma. Don’t let anyone be left struggling alone. Be the friend who stays, who listens, and who lifts others toward healing. Too often, we don’t look deeply enough at a problem to find the root that would resolve it. We regard most of our troubles as externally generated, but in reality, most are internally generated—even the financial ones. There are deep internal wounds that require healing before our external reality can change. In other words, we need to heal. So we must learn how to heal, and how to bring ourselves to a point of healing.

And that, my friends, is what Becoming Maverick is all about: leaning into community, embracing vulnerability, and choosing connection over isolation. Let’s step boldly into this new year with courage, compassion, and the commitment to be there for each other when it matters most. Together, we are stronger.

Join the Conversation

Thank you for reading to the end.  What is your strategy for the New Year? Let’s start a conversation—leave a comment below!

Shalom!


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Thank You for Your Generosity 

Your appreciation means the world to me! If you’ve been enjoying my content, consider gifting me a little treat for R15. This daily brew not only keeps my creative energy flowing but also adds a warm glow to my day. Your thoughtful gesture is like a ray of sunshine that brightens my work. Thank you for being a part of my journey and fueling my inspiration!

Feeling inspired? If my content has brought a smile to your face, a R35 treat of coffee and a cupcake would do the same for me! Your kindness adds a touch of sweetness to my day and reminds me that my work is valued. Every sip and bite will be a delicious reminder of your support. Thank you for spreading joy and making my creative process even sweeter!

Love what you see? Whether it’s a tiny espresso shot or a grand dessert feast, your surprise gift of any amount fills my heart with excitement and keeps my creativity bubbling! Your generosity, in whatever form it takes, brings unexpected joy to my day and propels me forward. 
Thank you for your support and for making this journey so much more fun and rewarding!



Where to?

 Where do I go from here?

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” — Mark Twain

Acknowledging, in the context of a growth mindset, means recognizing where you currently stand without viewing it as your final destination. It’s not about accepting limitations, but about seeing them clearly as a starting point for progress.





 Welcome to the Journey, Mavericks

Welcome to Becoming Maverick. If you're here, you’re likely someone who questions the status quo and seeks ways to grow—someone who doesn’t settle. That’s what this space is all about challenging ourselves to move forward, not just by leaps, but through small, meaningful steps. And today, I want to share something I’ve been reflecting on—something that I believe can resonate with all of us on this journey.

The Struggle with Acceptance 

Lately, I’ve been wrestling with the idea of acceptance. When life takes a turn for the worse, or even when something great happens, I’ve often been told, "You need to accept it and move on." But that never quite sat right with me. How can I be expected to accept a situation, especially if I’m in distress? Acceptance can feel like a dead end—a resignation to circumstances that might feel completely wrong or limiting.

Even Success Can Feel Limiting 

Interestingly, I’ve found that this struggle with acceptance doesn’t only happen in difficult times. When I achieve something, people often say, “You're awesome—please stay as you are!” But this feels like another form of limitation. I believe in continuous growth, and the idea of staying the same contradicts that. Success isn’t a point of completion—it’s a foundation for more growth.

The Power of Acknowledgment 

What I’ve been exploring instead is the concept of acknowledgement. This feels different from acceptance. Acknowledgement allows me to recognize where I am without feeling confined to it. It gives me the freedom to say, “This is my starting point,” and from there, I can envision my next steps. Acknowledging a situation, whether it’s good or bad, feels empowering. It means I’m aware of my reality without being defined by it.

Acknowledgement as a Starting Point 

Recently, I’ve written about the power of believing aggressively and transforming weeds into progress. Acknowledgement is part of this process. It is the starting point of any journey. It’s an act of awareness that allows me to map out my future, even in the middle of chaos or success. By acknowledging the status quo, I’m able to decide what comes next. I can evolve, adapt, and make progress rather than stay stagnant.

Growth Isn’t Static 

The way I see it, personal growth is rarely about massive leaps forward. It’s more about small, steady steps. Acknowledgement is the first step. It’s realizing that growth is a continuous journey, and staying static—whether in success or struggle—doesn’t move us forward. By acknowledging where I am today, I create the space to grow into who I want to be tomorrow.

Slowing Down to Move Forward 

There’s a song I love called Breathe Slow by Mars Ill. It reminds me to slow down when life feels overwhelming. That ties directly into acknowledgement for me. When I’m in the thick of it—whether it’s stress, confusion, or even success—acknowledging what’s happening helps me pause and breathe. It’s in that moment of pause where I can see the possibilities ahead, even if they aren’t immediately clear.

A Journey of Acknowledgment

I’m still navigating this concept, but I’ve found that acknowledgement allows me to move through life with more intention. Acceptance has its place, but acknowledgement feels like the tool I need to keep growing, to keep expanding. It’s about recognizing where I am, but always looking forward to what’s next.

Join the Conversation 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Does acknowledgement resonate with you? How do you approach moments of struggle or success? Join the conversation by leaving a comment below and let’s continue exploring this journey together.

Shalom!



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Thank You for Your Generosity 

Your appreciation means the world to me! If you’ve been enjoying my content, consider gifting me a little treat for R15. This daily brew not only keeps my creative energy flowing but also adds a warm glow to my day. Your thoughtful gesture is like a ray of sunshine that brightens my work. Thank you for being a part of my journey and fueling my inspiration!

Feeling inspired? If my content has brought a smile to your face, a R35 treat of coffee and a cupcake would do the same for me! Your kindness adds a touch of sweetness to my day and reminds me that my work is valued. Every sip and bite will be a delicious reminder of your support. Thank you for spreading joy and making my creative process even sweeter!

Love what you see? Whether it’s a tiny espresso shot or a grand dessert feast, your surprise gift of any amount fills my heart with excitement and keeps my creativity bubbling! Your generosity, in whatever form it takes, brings unexpected joy to my day and propels me forward. 
Thank you for your support and for making this journey so much more fun and rewarding!



11:33 and the Courage to Let Your Light Be Seen

  What is light? Scientifically, light is energy that allows us to see and perceive our environment. In life, the good we do—through work, l...